Mengais Hikmah Pendidikan Islam Dalam Luka Di Atas Derita Studi Kasus Pria India Lamarannya Ditolak Calon Mertua
DOI:
https://doi.org/10.55606/jcsrpolitama.v1i2.1436Keywords:
Pendidikan Islam; Luka Diatas DeritaAbstract
Artikel bermaskud mengais hikmah pendidikan islam dalam luka di atas derita, studi kasus pria india ditolak calon mertua, dengan melihat kasus spesifik dan dicari solusinya. Penelitian termasuk jenis kualitatif dalam setting library research dikupas content analysis. Kesimpulan: kasus pria asal India bernama Asib Ali Bhore melamar pujaan hatinya Syarifah Khaerunnisa, wanita asal Sulawesi Selatan yang kemudian lamarannya ditolak orang tua si wanita merupakan perihal menyakitkan bagi si pria melihat realitas ia merupakan anak tunggal yang menjadi tulang punggung keluarga dan telah mengahbiskan banyak biaya demi datang ke Indonesia. Dari kasus ini terdapat pendidikan Islam, bahwa lamaran ditolak merupakan kewajaran, dimana hal tersebut belum mengikat secara syariat. maka dari itu, diperlukan langkah bijak menyikapi kegagalan menikah dengan menguatkan pikiran dan tindakan positif supaya tidak terperangkap dalam kekecewaan, sebaliknya menatap masa depan dengan nyaman dan bahagia. Implikasi penelitian, lamaran bukanlah ikatan sakral, maka sikap kecewa perlu dijauhkan agar tidak jatuh pada sikap negatif berlebihan.
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